“This moving away from comfort and security, this stepping out into what is unknown, unchartered and shaky- that’s called liberation.” – Pema Chodron
What does going over your edge mean anyway?
I wish I could say I was the brilliant one that came up with that catchy phrase, but unfortunately, I’m not that clever. Recently, my teacher, Dr.Joe Dispenza, completed a 7-day workshop in Toronto, Canada and the theme was all about finding your edge. I missed this one and it was a big miss.
He started doing these 7-day workshops at the beginning of this year, as opposed to the 4-day workshops he had done before. He changed the format a little and the most exciting part (well at least for me) is that he added some kind of a physical challenge to each workshop. And he did not disappoint with the one in Toronto.
This challenge would include scaling down a 35-story building in the heart of the city. There was something like 900 people out of 1000 in the workshop that completed the challenge. Don’t quote me on exact numbers. There are people that attended, and completed the challenge, that are in their 60’s, 70’s and 80’s. Some have life threatening diseases, some can’t walk without the assistance of a cane, walker, or a wheelchair, and some had a debilitating fear of heights…probably more than not. And yet instead of being a victim and getting angry for having to do it, instead of playing the blame game, or finding every human excuse to not do it, they decided to step over their edge.
After speaking with one of my friends that attended the workshop and successfully scaled down the building, it got me thinking about edges in my own life. As Dr. Joe explained it, the challenge had nothing to do with heights, at least not in the way most would think. It had to do with reaching an edge in your life and instead of taking one step further, just past your edge, you let fear win. You let your body control your mind, leading you to believe it is keeping you “safe”. And therefore, constantly holding yourself and your life back from true freedom.
I’m all about looking within and constantly trying to find my blind spots, but this gave that a whole new meaning. I have completed two different 7-day workshops this year and both of the challenges that came along with them. The first one was terrifying. A fear I had never quite felt before. And even though I knew I was “safe” the mind can really play some nasty tricks on you. But a 35-story building?? What a perfect opportunity to apply all the work he has taught his students! I actually found myself being a little bummed I didn’t get to that workshop and stand right on the edge. Right on my edge.
The thing is, I don’t think a lot of us need a 35-story building to reach our edge. Don’t get me wrong, that will definitely put it right in front of your face without being able to avoid it. But I think if we are brave enough to look, we can find many edges in our own lives. That spot where our programs and habits kick in with a vengeance and give our minds and bodies every excuse to not jump over the edge. Or even take a step for that matter.
It really got me thinking more about my edges. Of course some are easier to spot then others, but the big ones…..yeah I’m definitely aware of those. Those things we tell ourselves we can’t do, or are too afraid to do, or what if this happens, or that happens. We will always try and find reasons to talk ourselves out of it. And most of the time, have others convince us of the same! It brings me to the quote I have been reading over and over again lately. “Sometimes all you have to do is go for it. Take a breath and jump. Because here’s the thing, you can spend forever standing at the foot of the diving board, and you will always find a reason not to go in. It’s too high; it might hurt; you might swallow water; And all of those things are true, but you know what else is true? You’ll waste a perfectly good life standing on the edge when really the most beautiful thing you could do is go for it. Take the jump.”
In speaking about the challenge, Dr.Joe said something along the lines of, most people will get to that edge and not be able to calm their brain and body down because they don’t believe they can. That part really stuck with me. It amazes me how many people believe they really have no control of their minds and bodies, let alone their lives. They give up all their power and free will to programs, habits, and beliefs. Fear. And they convince themselves of not jumping by affirming that they could never do that because they are sick, or have no money, or will get fired, or end up homeless, or (here’s a big one) they will upset someone. All of those are just that. Excuses. Excuses to stay in their comfort zones, to not have to jump, to not have to actually take some control of their life. It’s much easier to stand on the roof and stay safe your whole life instead of ever having to really take a chance at life.
You can usually tell a lot about a person by how they let their fear rule them. We ALL have fears in our lives. Hundreds of years of conditioning and giving into fear and playing it safe. It’s what someone does with it that matters. That doesn’t mean you have to go scale down a 35-story building. It means you have to first recognize your own edges. See them for what they really are. Find what is REALLY holding you back in your life. Because I think you will find, it will almost always come down to you not wanting to step into the unknown. To finding excuses to not have to be great, instead of just good. And once you find that edge, staying conscious enough to not let a habit take over. To not let a program take over. And then taking just one more step.
We started our pre-supernatural tour in Long Island New York over last weekend. A group of us decided to do a ropes course so that those of us who didn’t attend the Toronto workshop could create an environment where we may be faced with our own edges. Everyone definitely conquered themselves in some way, but what I think we all realized the most is that it’s not even about our bodies not feeling safe. It’s about fear of failure, fear of what you may look like, fear of what may go wrong, fear of what may go right! We hold ourselves back in every way possible! So, while our ego’s may trick us into believing it’s about physical safety, it’s actually all about the fear inside our minds. And guess what….no one got hurt, no one died, the skies didn’t fall from heaven, and no one’s feelings were hurt. It was actually very thrilling!
It was definitely a much smaller representation of scaling down a 35-story building, but the point remains the same. Not giving into fear. Some may try and argue this point and recite all of the things that have gone wrong, could go wrong, and that those fears are “real” in situations like this. But their lives will always be representations of their limitations. Every reason why they can’t step over edges in their own lives. You want to fight for your limitations? Because I think all of those 900 people, many of which really did have every reason to fight for their limitations, showed us that we really can be limitless. We just have to make the decision to do so.
So go find your edges. Have a passion to want them to be exposed. Don’t fight for your limitations, fight to be limitless, even when everyone around you tells you you can’t be. Even when your own mind tries to tell you you can’t be. Just push past it a little. Stay in your heart and listen to that tiny voice inside that urges you to live life to the absolute fullest. Instead of finding reasons why you can’t do things, find the will to do them anyway. Take just one step past your edge. And see where flying may take you…